Discover the 90/10 Secret: It will change you.
The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and
apply this secret. The result? Millions of people are
suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and
heartache. They never seem to be a success in life.
Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be
constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack
of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time,
anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is
not enjoyed to the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is
a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you?
If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different!
Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change
your life!
What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%! How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how you react!
Let's use an example.
You're eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup of coffee into your
business shirt. You have no control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how
you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for
knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in
tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and
criticize them for placing the cup too close to the
edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You
storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs
you find your daughter has been too busy crying to
finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses
the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a
30 mph speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and
throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you arrive at
school. Your daughter runs to the building without
saying good-bye. After arriving at the office 20
minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your
day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to
get worse and worse. You look forward to going home.
When you arrive home you find a small wedge in your
relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened
with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is
what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to
cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to
be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your
briefcase, you come back down in time look through the
window and see your child getting on the bus. She
turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you
both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and
cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how
good a day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios.
Both started the same. Both ended different. Why?
Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any
control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is
determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.
If someone says something negative about you, do not
be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on
glass. You do not have to let the negative comment
affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your
day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend,
being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A
friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!) Do
you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you
try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why
let the blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10
principle, and do not worry about it!
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get
irritated? It will work out. Use your "worrying"
energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule
for the day. Why take out your frustration on control
over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to
know the other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out?
It will just make things worse.
You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will
be amazed at the results.
The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and
apply this secret. The result? Millions of people are
suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and
heartache. They never seem to be a success in life.
Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be
constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack
of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time,
anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is
not enjoyed to the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is
a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you?
If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different!
Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change
your life!
What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%! How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how you react!
Let's use an example.
You're eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup of coffee into your
business shirt. You have no control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how
you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for
knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in
tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and
criticize them for placing the cup too close to the
edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You
storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs
you find your daughter has been too busy crying to
finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses
the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a
30 mph speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and
throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you arrive at
school. Your daughter runs to the building without
saying good-bye. After arriving at the office 20
minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your
day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to
get worse and worse. You look forward to going home.
When you arrive home you find a small wedge in your
relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened
with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is
what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to
cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to
be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your
briefcase, you come back down in time look through the
window and see your child getting on the bus. She
turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you
both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and
cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how
good a day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios.
Both started the same. Both ended different. Why?
Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any
control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is
determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.
If someone says something negative about you, do not
be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on
glass. You do not have to let the negative comment
affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your
day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend,
being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A
friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!) Do
you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you
try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why
let the blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10
principle, and do not worry about it!
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get
irritated? It will work out. Use your "worrying"
energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule
for the day. Why take out your frustration on control
over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to
know the other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out?
It will just make things worse.
You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will
be amazed at the results.
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